Last night, as we celebrated New Year’s Eve on the couch eating leftover birthday cupcakes and watching old “Parenthood” episodes, I casually asked my husband for resolution ideas.
There’s always the obvious like exercise more and eat better. (Why do you think we were “getting rid of” the cupcakes before the new year?!) Get organized. Save money. Be a better meal planner. Wake up earlier. The usuals are always on my list.
As I eagerly looked up from my pen and paper, he smirked, “Resolve to stop making so many lists.”
After I had some time to ponder, I realized what he was saying. Sometimes I take life too seriously. I make lists where no lists are necessary. I organize and plan rather than enjoy and savor. I focus too much on what’s next instead of nourishing what I already have.
Later, as I was reading some of my favorite blogs, I came across the OneWord365 project. It’s all about scrapping the list of goals and instead focusing on one word that sums up who you want to be or how you want to live. Brilliant.
My baby is one. One! I can’t believe a year has passed. She is quickly becoming less baby and more toddler. She’s on the go and wants to play nonstop. While I adore reading books and playing dolls and chasing her princess car down the hallway, sometimes I hear my inner voice groaning, ‘Can mommy just switch the load of laundry without being distracted?’ I don’t like that voice. I know play matters more during this phase of life.
That’s why I’m choosing to play in 2013.
And play goes beyond molding my soon-to-be toddler’s sense of humor and imagination. It includes other aspects of my life, like going on more dates. Marriage requires play, and while we’ve made an effort to plan babysitters and nights out, there’s always room for more candle-lit meals and hand-holding.
Play means enjoying the pure, blissful moments that bubble up out of nowhere and are gone in an instant. Like random backseat giggles and impromptu kitchen dance parties. Play means creating family traditions. Play means making messes and not caring about unorganized closets. Making play a priority means leaving work at work—physically and mentally. It means the occasional girl’s night out and treating myself to a little something extra. It means putting on my workout clothes and breaking a sweat to feel alive, not to burn a magic number of calories. Play, to me, means freedom from having to have everything just right. It’s a breath of fresh air from my usual list of resolutions.
I’d like to leave you with these words written by Nadine Stair when she was 85 years old:
If I had my life to live over, I’d dare to make more mistakes next time. I’d relax. I would limber up. I would be sillier than I have been this trip. I would take fewer things seriously. I would take more chances. I would take more trips. I would climb more mountains and swim more rivers. I would eat more ice cream and less beans. I would perhaps have more actual troubles, but I’d have fewer imaginary ones.
You see, I’m one of those people who live sensibly and sanely hour after hour, day after day. Oh, I’ve had my moments and if I had it to do over again, I’d have more of them. In fact, I’d try to have nothing else. Just moments, one after another, instead of living so many years ahead of each day. I’ve been one of those persons who never goes anywhere without a thermometer, a hot water bottle, a raincoat, and a parachute. If I had to do it again, I would travel lighter than I have.
If I had my life to live over, I would start barefoot earlier in the spring and stay that way later in the fall. I would go to more dances. I would ride more merry-go-rounds. I would pick more daisies.
I’m glad I have this girl as my coach. She’s an expert in the field of play.
What is your OneWord365 for the new year?