It’s Sunday evening. The kind of Sunday evening that leaves you asking, “What did I accomplish this weekend?” and “How can I possibly catch up before another work week begins?”
I spent my weekend in bed fighting a nasty sore throat. It wasn’t my idea of a good weekend, and yet I’m thankful I had time to rest and relax, and a helpful, understanding husband to make it possible.
While I was resting, I finished the book The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands. It was exactly the reminder I needed. My favorite takeaway?
A woman who lives with the stress of an overwhelmed schedule will often ache with the sadness of an underwhelmed soul.
Isn’t that the truth? I relate this to weekends in particular. We can spend the time productively checking to-do’s off the list, then get to Sunday night and wonder when we had any fun. Or, we can choose to say yes to the people and things that matter – family, friends, date nights, entertainment, fitness, creative pursuits – and say no to the things that don’t – spotless homes, perfectly organized closets, Pinterest-worthy menu plans and wardrobes.
This applies to professional work, too. I’m a natural people-pleaser, so yes is my first answer. Five years into my career, I’m continually learning how saying yes to everything sometimes hinders me from saying yes to the best things. Often, these best yeses are sitting at the intersection of what the company needs and where my skills shine the brightest.
Life has a tendency to feel rushed. Mornings start out hurried – complete with an early alarm, nude nylons and an extra shot of coffee after convincing the toddler that shoes are not optional. The 8-5 whizzes by, and between a workout (if I’m lucky), supper, clean-up, bath and bedtime, the evening dissolves just as quickly. Which is why it’s even more important to grasp the little moments together – excitement over the pink sunrise (“God make it for me!”), a joke shared mid-meeting, a romantic couch date involving popcorn and Parenthood.
The book reminds us that Jesus, the most important person to walk this earth, was not rushed. He took time to build relationships. We should model this behavior by choosing the best yes. The endless tasks are not nearly as important as time spent together, loving one another.
This week I hope to choose well. I’ll go to bed and rise earlier to make mornings happier and less hurried. I’ll focus my energy in the present moment. I’ll put the phone down and savor family time in the evenings, creating an environment that’s a cozy, soft landing place from our busy, rushed world.
Because the unrushed life is the good life.